He Is Near: A Guide to Restoring Yourself While Caring for Others
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
— Psalm 34:18
Whether you’re a helper, listener or simply someone who others lean on—holding space for people in pain is sacred work. It’s also heavy work. And if you’re not careful, the emotional and spiritual weight can build until you find yourself running on empty.
If you give support to others—whether professionally or personally—you need rhythms of rest and renewal. You need boundaries, time for reflection, and space to connect with something greater than yourself.
This guide offers gentle, faith-based ways to care for your mind, body, and spirit—before, during, and after hard conversations—so you can keep showing up with grace and strength.
Before the Conversation: Ground Yourself
1. Use Your Senses
Light a candle. Listen to calming music. Sip something warm. Take a deep breath. These little moments help you bring peace into the room before you even speak.
2. Get Comfortable
Adjust your seat, stretch, and—yes—snack smart. A small low-carb bite (like nuts or fruit) can help keep your energy and focus steady.
3. Center Yourself with Intention
“I don’t have to absorb everything. I am here to offer calm, presence, and support.”
Repeat this like a quiet anchor. You are not responsible for fixing the moment—you’re here to hold it with care.
4. Most importantly, Invite the Divine In
Say a quiet prayer or affirmation. Ask for peace, clarity, and wisdom. You are not in this alone.
During the Moment: Stay Present Without Losing Yourself
1. Use Thoughtful, Gentle Language
Instead of “Tell me everything,” try:
- “Is there a part of this you feel ready to share today?”
- “How is this affecting you right now?”
These create emotional safety.
2. Imagine a Snow Globe
Picture a snow globe around you and one around the other person. Let the visual help you stay centered—even when emotions swirl.
3. Ground Your Body
Use a small textured object (like a smooth stone or bracelet) or gently tap your knees to stay connected to the present moment.
4. Essential Oils or a Mint
Try lavender to soothe, or peppermint to energize or one each wrist! A mint can also bring clarity and a quick reset.
5. Set Gentle Boundaries
It’s okay to say:
“We don’t need to go further into that right now.”
Protecting your emotional energy—and theirs—is a form of care.
After the Moment: Reset and Let Go
1. MOVE
Stand up, take a short walk, stretch, or breathe deeply. Physical movement helps emotional energy move through.
2. WATER & Food
Wash your hands or splash cool water on the back of your neck. It can help reset your nervous system and shift your energy. Need a protein-filled snack to energize you?
3. PRAY
Take a moment to lift the situation up in prayer, silence, or meditation. Release what’s not yours to carry.
4. SAY OUT LOUD:
“This is not mine to hold.”
Let your voice help your body let go.
5. JOURNAL OR TALK IT OUT
Ask yourself:
- What felt heavy?
- What surprised me?
- Do I need to process this further with someone I trust?
Staffing or debriefing is not just for professionals—it’s for anyone carrying others’ stories.
Stay Anchored with Self-Care
Here’s your self-care check-in:
✅ Eat clean food
✅ Stay hydrated
✅ Limit caffeine when possible
✅ Sleep 7–8 hours
✅ Move your body at least 2 hours a week
✅ Schedule downtime and keep it sacred
✅ Challenge yourself gently—try one new thing without overdoing it
Don’t Forget Spiritual Care
Your spirit needs care just as much as your mind and body. Even a few moments of spiritual connection each day can renew you.
- Read or reflect on a verse
- Practice silent meditation on one word or mindful breathing
- Say a simple prayer or affirmation
- Journal your thoughts or spiritual reflections
- Try StepForwardToLessStress.com for spiritual wellness tips
You Are Not Alone
As you walk alongside others—through grief, change, growth, or healing—remember:
You are not the only one doing this sacred work. Other helpers, supporters, and the Divine walk with you.
You are not alone in your giving. You are not unseen in your compassion.
Take a deep breath. Let yourself be supported too.
Enjoy Counseling Options staff can help you to care for yourself just as you care for others.